Thank you for your responses, I think I wasn't very clear!
I need not the 10 largest row (col) sum, but need the 10 subjects whose interactions were the greatest. Say, for example, I just wanted the top 3 performers, and looked at subject 4 7 11. I would look at their matching coordinates and sum that value as their total score (which, in this case, would include 6 matrix element values, the 6 interactions for the three subjects).
So i'm not really looking for the max columns, but the max interactions for a given subset of N subjects within a larger set of say, 200 subjects. I hope that is more clear. thank you for the fast responses!